The individual is often the wrong person to appraise themselves on how they are faring in life. 

Often, we are actually making progress but we are too blind to see it. 

At that point, the appraisal of another person might just be what we need to fully understand how great we’ve been doing. 

The appraisal is not for validation. It actually helps. It puts things to perspective. You see clearly and really appreciate how much you’ve done and how well you’re doing.