Over-Inspired 2021-02-07 20:20:36

I don't know if this is an African thing, but there's a there's a thing about seeing the best guys in a certain field of interest of yours and quickly assuming you should do all you can to be around them.

On second thought, it's not an African thing, I believe that the desire to roll with the best is a global phenomenon, the drive to make that a reality without considering several other factors is at best infantile.

Not minding your personal make-up, not seeking to know the "industry leaders" beyond the surface level before joining up with them is a bad idea. A good example is just wanting to be in Elon Musk's circle without considering his work ethic and some of his lifestyle choices.

Such decisions don't end well. Your hero becomes "toxic", not because he is, but because you didn't put every single thing into consideration.

You were over-inspired.

I love how Daniel Vassalo puts it - "I got out of the rat race when I realized I didn’t envy the winners’ lifestyle."

Seun Oyebode

Internet of Noise Nature Vs Nurture
Over time I realised I didn't really want to personally get to know or hang out with my heroes (of the internet). It had been usually disappointing. Like you said, I was over-inspired.
2021-02-08 08:18:00
in this case I think
is highlighting that it's not about disappointment since it has nothing to do with the hero... and actually the big reveal is when you realize that you didn't know yourself and you signed up for something and idolized someone without even knowing why.

I think we often fall into this trap when we let the wavepool of cultural trends make absolute influence on what we tell ourselves we want out of life.

2021-02-08 14:30:43