brianball
What began our discussion was me giving feedback to Brian on his writing. I shared my opinion that his writing shined when he was being vulnerable and that he didn't do this enough. It was when he shared mistakes and not just wins where there were real takeaways from his message. And now we arrive at the point where I am needing to quote Brian so I'll leave it here.
This is enough to get the conversation started. Hope to read what you think, feel free to reply as a post if it's longer: there's a reply button below the comments box.
When reflecting on the past, if everything happens for a reason, does that mean there are no mistakes?
When reflecting on the past, if you do accept certain things as mistakes, can that be done without negativity?
These are my questions. I wrote questions instead of answers because initially I had tried to write an answer of a post but couldn't pull it off. To big of an idea for me. Feel free to reply in questions if you too are unable to come up with answers.
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- Hmm I think a mistake is still a mistake but it doesn't have to become a cross that's yours to bear all the time. Maybe trying to reframe it to not be a mistake might lend itself to escaping personal ownership and responsibility to it. I like to just own up, apologise (if needed), reflect and learn from it, and try my darn best to not repeat it the second time. First time, forgiven. Second time, shame on me.
When reflecting on the past, if you do accept certain things as mistakes, can that be done without negativity?
- yes for sure. Maybe it's easier to see it as trial and error. Each mistake is a learning point to get better, not an indication of your self worth.
yes... and here is another example that that inspired within me.
Wounds can become scars. Beautiful scars that no longer present the same danger to you as a wound. But they are still scars