Posturing

Trying to be something you are not is exhausting. 

If you don’t feel like you have enough information to develop an opinion about a problem, it’s okay to say “I don’t know” while you gather the information you need. 

Your professional stature doesn’t depend on you having all the answers at a moments notice. 

If you’re struggling, it’s okay to say “I’m struggling”

We all struggles sometimes. 

If you need help, it’s okay to say “I need help”. 

We all need help sometimes. 

Adopting a position of honesty about how your thinking and processing a situation instead of posturing is about choosing to wear your perfectly imperfect humanity on your sleeve. 

It’s about finally dropping the mentally draining effort that posturing demands and making space to approach people, problems, and desires sincerely. 

And in doing so, in time, is to find relief. 

Gabriel Greco
Adulthood = posturing. No matter how much we age, people seem to be the same as they were in high school, just...posturing.
2021-06-28 23:12:06
Abraham Kim
People do change. You can change too. Your previous comment about you probably not continuing your writing streak is indicative just of how little you believe in the change possible within yourself when really deep down you probably wish you could just let go of such self 
Harrison Bergeron
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2021-06-28 23:51:00
Gabriel Greco
I wanted to have a catch-all comment there. Posturing is an always thing, even if you change you can still posture - ie. you pretend you know wtf you're doing. Sometimes you know, but not always, so you pretend. Just like people pretend they're doing great and then shoot themselves the next day.
Anyway, that's one thing about posturing. Change is another, change is eminently possible but it doesn't eliminate anybody's proclivity for posturing. I think we all learn it early on and very few of us can live without it. As my favorite KVG quote goes, "we are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be." And so it goes...
2021-06-29 00:10:07
Abraham Kim
Great point. I totally agree with that caveat.

Posturing can only be bad if it places us in anxious/dismal positions
2021-06-29 00:12:17
Gabriel Greco
Yeah, that's what 
williamliao
 is saying and he's right. Not that anyone's going to listen to such sage advice.
2021-06-29 00:15:03
Abraham Kim
Lmao people don't listen to sage advice. Sage advice is for people who either have already accepted it and are in the long ass process of implementing it through life or those who have already done that.

That's the tragedy of wisdom. Just like at college the free pizza and condoms are just for the students who mostly could actually afford to pay for such things. Down the block is an urban slum where kids don't get any such amenities.
2021-06-29 00:17:33