Another coworker left today. Put in his notice, at least. Spiritually he's already gone, away & beyond to the next great thing & to higher pay. The triangle may be the strongest shape, but diagonal will always be the strongest direction.
That makes twelve in the past quarter. That's not even counting the mass layoff spree that went down at the end of Q1. Some of them deserved it. The ones that choose the door deserve it too, I suppose. They took the time to find elsewhere.
Of the twelve, eight of them I've now known for years, knew them in that way that coworkers can only know, better in some areas than their real-life relationships. In real life, where they tell themselves their masks are all pulled down and they act their true selves, but where we often just wear our second set.
Work is a fire that can melt all pretenses and leave you bare to be human. Coworkers see those glimpses like puzzle pieces, collecting a new one every few weeks or months to quietly fit together in their idle minds. Those pieces are cut from the pure stuff, even if small in number. They show true glimpses in those glimmers.
Being happy for them always comes with envy. Even if I'd never pick their destination for myself, the fact that they get to jump free, to float for a while before time & space dictate they reach back out to grab onto something and begin to climb again, that's worth a small fortune to most. To me, as one of the most.
Vacuums create opportunity, but you can only shine so long at a company before they get used to your shade. Colors can fade even if the heat keeps up, even if the production lines have tightened their screws and cut out the slag. All that some solutions need is a stronger hammer or a slimmer wrench, but no one gets excited about those. Solving processes isn't flashy. Even internally, all people want to be is sold. If they've already bought you, can you keep on selling them?
Ladders will never go out of style, and sometimes the best rung is the one on the next line over. But how do you know when to jump? Is it just a feeling? A desperation or a hope?
Of the twelve, eight of them I've now known for years, knew them in that way that coworkers can only know, better in some areas than their real-life relationships. In real life, where they tell themselves their masks are all pulled down and they act their true selves, but where we often just wear our second set.
Work is a fire that can melt all pretenses and leave you bare to be human. Coworkers see those glimpses like puzzle pieces, collecting a new one every few weeks or months to quietly fit together in their idle minds. Those pieces are cut from the pure stuff, even if small in number. They show true glimpses in those glimmers.
Being happy for them always comes with envy. Even if I'd never pick their destination for myself, the fact that they get to jump free, to float for a while before time & space dictate they reach back out to grab onto something and begin to climb again, that's worth a small fortune to most. To me, as one of the most.
Vacuums create opportunity, but you can only shine so long at a company before they get used to your shade. Colors can fade even if the heat keeps up, even if the production lines have tightened their screws and cut out the slag. All that some solutions need is a stronger hammer or a slimmer wrench, but no one gets excited about those. Solving processes isn't flashy. Even internally, all people want to be is sold. If they've already bought you, can you keep on selling them?
Ladders will never go out of style, and sometimes the best rung is the one on the next line over. But how do you know when to jump? Is it just a feeling? A desperation or a hope?
in technology projects there's the idea of
I think in longer term relationships these lingerers are more brought to attention. LIke "hey look i did this good thing!" the other people in our 'real' relationships might say "well okay, but look at all this other shit you need to take care of!"
That doesn't happen at work because it's greenfield. You don't have a backlog of issues/bugs. You just get to shine within a tightly scoped faucet of yourself. Shine bright no matter how small the scope is. It's becaus they don't really know how you are that they get to just appreciate that little thing.
there's the phrase tech debt too, where devs build out something that either doesn't suit a wider purpose/the original purpose dries up, or it was created inaccurately that doesn't really solve the main hurt.
feel like that could be explored in the context of relationships and communication, as well
But I kinda feel, it's "laziness" (for lack of a better word) to allow these lingerers in long term relationships.
I have same worldview with Naval Ravikant that compound relationships are the best.
As that is true, all the efforts (by both parties obviously) to clear backlogs / technical debt is worth it. Because they will both reap the benefits.
This short video by Jordan Peterson also speak to the issue - https://twitter.com/jordanbpeterson/status/1429083882436108293?s=20