As a parent of two adult daughters, I am often asked if I have any parenting tips on how to bring up children. I have one tip. Teach your children to be resilient.
Resilience is one's capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. It is the ability to cope with unexpected changes and challenges in your life.
Parents have a critical role in developing a child's resilience. Building a happy home is a good start. One that is supportive of them, and makes them feel safe and comfortable when they are not feeling the best. When a difficulty arrives for your child, don't try and solve it for them. Ensure you are there to listen, not judge, and help them develop a more positive perspective of their difficulty.
Most of all, you are there to support them through it. Guide your child to find a solution for themselves. It may take a bit of time, and a lot of tears, but you will need to persist with the unconditional support until they have that lightbulb moment.
Once they have solved that problem, get ready to saddle up to help them with the next issue. A resilient child is never one without difficulty, but they will learn to cope better with what life throws at them.
Resilience is one's capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. It is the ability to cope with unexpected changes and challenges in your life.
Parents have a critical role in developing a child's resilience. Building a happy home is a good start. One that is supportive of them, and makes them feel safe and comfortable when they are not feeling the best. When a difficulty arrives for your child, don't try and solve it for them. Ensure you are there to listen, not judge, and help them develop a more positive perspective of their difficulty.
Most of all, you are there to support them through it. Guide your child to find a solution for themselves. It may take a bit of time, and a lot of tears, but you will need to persist with the unconditional support until they have that lightbulb moment.
Once they have solved that problem, get ready to saddle up to help them with the next issue. A resilient child is never one without difficulty, but they will learn to cope better with what life throws at them.
I remember in my sociology class learning that the primary factor to a kid from a low SES family in the U.S succeeding was resilience.