GabrielGreco

when you're truly listening -- the way Keni is painting here -- then you don't have things to forget to say. Since having forgotten means you were already keeping some response in state and that means deviation of resources away from 

listening

to 

speaking

 

It's natural for me to get off by saying something witty. I love it when I say something smart or original and that makes the other person tell me i just did that. I'm weaning off this lately but it took years for me to even admit that I was addicted to it. Then years to realize better ways of communicating.