I Love You

I have had this conversation about love with many Ethiopian friends. 

Have you ever heard your parents say 'I love you' to each other?
There would be laughter as a response. I don't know 1 person that said that they did. 

Saying I love you isn't done. It feels culturally wrong and worse unnecessary. 

It isn't necessarily a romantic love either. Most children haven't heard their parents say it to them. We didn't realize that it was missing until we left Ethiopia or saw movies about life in the West.

A few of my friends were curious about the why. In a culture where relationships and love was abundant and necessary, why is a declaration of love missing?

There are some theories that try to explain it. 
We don't need to - is one common proud response.
Our language doesn't make it easy - is another response.
Why do we have to - is another one. 

I want to understand the cultural aspect of demonstrating love. Why is it that Americans say 'I love you' so often? Is there an impact positively or negatively? Do humans need to hear it said at a certain frequency? 

I don't have the answers but I find myself telling my nephew and niece that I love them many times over. Each time I see them. 
I love you!

just kidding, 

but i wanted you to see that written out to you because it is powerful to see it haha.
2022-05-28 16:25:39
LOL. I spent less time in Ethiopia than outside it so I am not uncomfortable with it. 
2022-05-29 02:55:11
It is important to say it, to people that you love, in your life. And it's good that you do say it. 
2022-05-29 11:50:30
While I do find that it is a powerful statement, I observe many people say it as counterfeit.

I believe love experienced is preferrable to false statements thrown around for quick hits of 
2022-05-30 16:01:39