Stop being so scared of being something you aren't. You aren't anything but the things you do and the thoughts you think. This is always changing. You never really are. More so you are becoming. Quit being scared of becoming what you want to become rather than something you think you want to become.

Why do you think you want to become something but not want to become that? Everyone's got their reason. Maybe you've spent too much time having others think for you. You know the difference. Sometimes you have somebody's voice coming out of the speakers and you're listening and letting them think for you. Sometimes you're not listening to any external speaker at all... you're just remembering or imagining how someone else might think. 

You know what it's like to think... rather than have thoughts had for you. You know the difference between laying back, letting it take you VS leaning in and integrating. Listen, but think. Don't do what you usually do: not listen, don't think.

Last of all have courage. Stop being so scared of what you're becoming. If you stop fearing what you're becoming then you'll become something else.