Today was a
perfect
day for me. Nothing extraordinary happened. In fact plain things happening at just the right time with the right person.
Then I guess at the end of the day the important thing isn't that the right things are happening with the right people. Because what does right even mean, right?
So what makes a perfect day has a much to do with the ability of the person experiencing it to correctly and confidently know what is right for them.
Often I've heard the line pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Which points to how it's less about what happens to us and more how we react to them. I've found something very true in this perspective. Recently I've come to add another caveat to this.
If much of
suffering
happens because of how we react to events. How do humans come to react in such pain inducing ways?
I notice that much of this is because people do not know what is right for them. Often we live as though we do know what is right for us, only to realize years or decades later that in fact we were wrong.
Hello, human here, "If much of suffering happens because of how we react to events. How do humans come to react in such pain inducing ways? " I've see my fellow humans indulging in the thrill provided by (what I consider) unnecessary drama.
In those moments they live intensely like Dostoyevsky's characters, they suffer they grow they transcend their condition or not. Suffering needs to be investigated by oneself, to understand the root. the real cause.
Have you read Man's search for meaning by Victor Frankl ? He recounts at length on the topic of suffering, of course trough the prism of his experiences in Auschwitz and the other concentration camps where he was. He said something about gratuitous violence and how it was the most painful because it was unjust.
No but many times the universe has told me to read it. Right now though I don't feel any desire to read it. I will probably feel that desire in the future and i'll make sure to ping you about it once i do.
"If much of suffering happens because of how we react to events. How do humans come to react in such pain inducing ways? " I've see my fellow humans indulging in the thrill provided by (what I consider) unnecessary drama.
In those moments they live intensely like Dostoyevsky's characters, they suffer they grow they transcend their condition or not. Suffering needs to be investigated by oneself, to understand the root. the real cause.